From Renata:
Infertility is the loss of an assumed future.
The past five years of our lives have been fertility-centric. All leading up to the big guns – In Vitro Fertilization. IVF was a year long process for us, which was like the slowest roller coaster ride imaginable – filled with mechanical delays and the magical ability to slow down the space-time continuum. Despite a great team of medical professionals – our journey did not end up in success.
But we aren’t victims of the process. We were given a chance and we gave it our all. And oddly enough, I feel grateful for it. We have a new perspective on life and we get to re-write our plan for the future – this time with a little less assumption.
I submitted my story to Melissa’s contest because I wanted a way to capture how much I appreciate the family unit that I do have. I have an awesome husband that supports me through anything my heart desires… with humor & logic (as opposed to my tears & irrationality.) We have a German Shepherd named Valentino that brings joy & exasperation to our lives. And we have two cats – Ren and Tiger – that provide such a sweet, cuddly love. I am so lucky!
Chuck and MJ wanted a quiet and personal day together. I was thrilled when they asked me along to capture their day and be their witness! Such an honor when a couple asks this. We spent time around their old neighborhood, Little Italy and ended with some cake and champagne at Extraordinary Desserts! The predicted rain even let up in time for outdoor portraits!
REBIRTH
“I reached out to Melissa in hopes of her photographing me to capture this special and symbolic time of my life. The last three years have felt, at times, like literal hell. Now, it is as if I am being rebirthed into a powerful time of femininity, grace and peace that has been in me all along, but I hadn’t fully recognized myself.
I thought I was adaptable. I thought I was flexible. I thought I was capable of making things work in any situation and that my transition from NYC to San Diego would be a breeze. I had no idea what was waiting for me on the other side of the country when I moved in 2012. The Universe had more turbulent plans for me…to help me learn the importance of embracing impermanence, forcing me to truly live in the moment, to let go of things and rid myself of attachments to people and objects.
It took me being perpetually sick, abused and transient to learn these difficult lessons and start being brutally honest with myself about what I need, desire and deserve to give and receive. Eventually, I began to surrender to whatever situation was in front of me, because as it turns out, only pain comes with resistance. Kindness is non-negotiable. Accountability is essential. Go with the flow, let it be, keep moving forward, que sera sera: These are all clichés for a reason. Life lessons are learned abundantly in real-time, if you allow them.”
I had so much fun at this wedding! Amy + Bryan are a total blast and the vendors they chose were top notch! They love live music and concerts/music and incorporated these things in to their table names and guest book! Love personal touches like this! Shout out to Courtney for introducing me to this awesome couple! Ceremony + Reception Venue: Encinitas Botanical Garden
Photographer: Melissa McClure Photography
Planning & Coordination: Courtney, After the Engagement
Floral Design: Exquisite Blooms
Caterer: Miho GastroTruck
DJ: Mexisurf
Officiant: Jason with Ceremonies by Bethel
Custom Signs: Twinkle & Toast